This came from a MDC mama and I want to remember it so I'm putting it here for future reference.
Wanting isn't the problem. Needing (fill in the blank) in order to be happy is a problem. Focusing on not having it will block the manifestation. The trick is to want it, and also be happy here and now and to know you are totally fine and happy without it. As in, I really want a boyfriend. And I am having so much fun on my own, that I am fine with this as long as it goes on. When he shows up we will have a great time together, just as I am having a wonderful time, now.Tricky, sometimes, true. But as assignments go, "Be Happy!" is a rather pleasant one, I think.